Life'n'Me

  When Overthinking Stops Helping—and Starts Hurting You How to know which thoughts deserve a closer look, what to take from them, and when to close the door. Have you ever thought your way into understanding something—and then kept thinking until you no longer knew what to believe? At first, things were becoming clearer. You noticed something you missed. Found the words you couldn’t find earlier. Understood why a conversation bothered you. Then, somehow, the same thinking started dismantling the clarity it had just helped you build. But what if they meant something else? What if I was the problem? What if I should have said more? Or less? What if my first instinct was right? What if I’m just being dramatic? And now you have seventeen possible explanations, three imaginary arguments and absolutely no peace. This is where I think a lot of us get stuck. Because thinking things through can be a good thing. Looking again can save you from a careless conclusion. Questioning yourself can...

  Battle of Wits — How to Say the Right Things at the Right Time Without Missing a Beat Ever been stuck in that annoying loop of  “Oh no! Why didn’t I say that?”  or  “This would have sounded so much more appropriate” ? I have, and it’s super annoying. Some people are naturally blessed with effortless quick wit—otherwise called automatic wit. Some of us have the perpetually lagging kind, where the perfect response arrives approximately three business days after the conversation has ended. And then some of us are somewhere in between because our wit apparently has a mind of its own and, hence, is terribly unstable. But I think I’ve hacked how to trick—or perhaps  train —our wits into satisfying both our immediate selves and the version of us that will inevitably replay the conversation later. Because maybe quick wit isn’t entirely something you’re born with. Maybe part of it can actually be trained. 1. Don’t always act on impulse. Allow yourself a little time to ...